What Do You Mean, What’s In It For Me?
The question the manosphere asks about marriage is the question your boss asks about you.
The New Evangelicals ran a piece this week by Eric LeBoeuf called “Submission in Marriage.” He spent a few days falling down the YouTube Shorts hole of right-wing marriage influencers and came back with a diagnosis. Underneath all the talk about submission, picky women, and trad wives sits one question: What’s in it for men?
He’s right about the question. He’s right that it’s the wrong place to start. But I think the reason it’s wrong runs deeper than a misread verse in Ephesians. It has to do with where that question comes from, and where most of us already spend forty hours a week answering it.
Where do you normally hear “what’s in it for me?”































































